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Dec 14 2012

Dedicated to all the victims of the Connecticut shooting


Regardless of your personal beliefs, what happened today in Connecticut is an absolute tragedy. Please put what divides us aside for right now and join hands in a moment of silence for the victims of today’s tragedy. 

With that said…….

Very rarely am I at a loss for words but……….I am today.

My heart breaks for all the children and families affected by the Connecticut school shooting today. The loss of life is beyond a senseless tragedy. I want to say how completely heartbroken for those killed in this despicable act.

Everyone is in our thoughts and prayers and will remain there. angels_never_leave

As a parent, this is my absolute worst nightmare and I can’t even begin to understand what these parents are going through.

Please hug your children tonight and be thankful that you have them.

As a society, we have to work together, despite our differences, be it race, religion or political beliefs and do everything possible and then some, to ensure this never happens again.

When I personally experience a tragedy, I tend to find meaning and comfort in music. For that reason, I wanted to share two songs I felt compelled to listen to after hearing about today‘s events.

Please keep all those involved in today‘s shooting, the victims, their families and friends in your thoughts and prayers.


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Jun 26 2012

Happy 4th Birthday Emmett


You only turn 4 once in your life and at 12:30am this morning, it was Emmett John’s turn. I can’t believe it’s been 4 years already. This time last year, Emmett was barely speaking and now he’s having simple conversations. Words will never be able to express just how much I love him and how much he means to me.

We had a rather humble birthday party for him Monday night because we won’t be home tonight in order to celebrate.

We had a special dinner, a birthday cake, presents and a balloon. While I wish we were in a position to do more, he was so happy and that’s all that matters. I even manged to get him a cloud so he could touch it. I found some information online about making a cloud in a bottle. Well, I made one and released it into the air, giving Emmett a chance to touch it.

He was really excited and that felt amazing. It felt like I was able to give him something that he has been dreaming about. :-)

Please enjoy the pictures and birthday video. :-)

Happy Birthday my sweet Emmett John. Daddy loves you this big. :-)




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May 27 2012

Elliott’s creative clock


Alright, on to happier things. Elliott set his mind to making a clock today. He is learning about time in school right now and so he’s fascinated with clocks. I actually hung a clock in his room tonight as I was putting him to bed for the night. I was really impressed with what he came up with and the fact that it actually moved.

I was going to do the usual picture thing but I thought you really needed to see the hand move and Elliott wanted a movie. So there you have it, check out Elliott’s latest and greatest Lego creation. :-)

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May 15 2012

Today’s Victory: 05/15/2012


The boys were all driving me crazy and I mean banging my head into a wall crazy. In a last ditch effort to broker a peace deal,  I took them outside,  which is something we don’t always like to do in our neighborhood.

We got the tee ball set out of the garage and set it up.

Elliott and Emmett took turns hitting while Gavin played outfielder.  Gavin didn’t get to hit because he would have likely broken something as he’s really aggressive and this was meant for Emmett.

My kids completely surprised me.  They all got along and Emmett and Elliott actually took turns hitting,  all by themselves. It was really,  really nice and I’m so proud of my 3 boys.

This is one huge friggin victory for the Lost and Tired family.  :-)

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May 09 2012

To all the special needs families


I’m the kind of person that finds a great deal meaning in music. I’m really trying to pass that on to my kids because music is such a powerful expression of ones soul. The words to a song can resonate with a person in a way nothing else could. A song has the power to heal someone in pain or change your perspective.

For me personally, I love the way a song can instantly spark a memory and transport me back in time to a place of cherished memories. When I come across a song that provides me with inspiration or touches me in a way that impacts my life in a positive way, I like to share it with all of you.

This song plays over and over in my head throughout the day. It’s like it was written for me as a way to express what I feel for my family. I believe that this song will apply to so many special needs families out there and I wanted to share this with all of you as sometimes hearing something like this can help on a really dark day. I hope you find as much meaning in this as I do. The words just seem like they could have been written by a special needs parent to their family.

The song is called:  I won’t give up and is by Jason Mraz.

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May 08 2012

What is #Autism: Running For Autism


Running For Autism

Meet Kristen and check out her awesome blog, it’s at Follow her on Facebook at and find her on Twitter, her handle is @running4autism.


When we first got hit with my firstborn son George’s autism diagnosis, people kept telling us it was a good thing. Now that we knew what was wrong, they said, we could find out more about it and get the right services in place. We could get George on the waiting list for this service or that funding. We had a word, a specific condition, to Google.

These well-meaning folks, most of whom did not have any first-hand knowledge of special needs parenting, made it sound so easy. All of the answers and help we needed, just a phone call away.

In practice, this should have been true. In Ontario, autism services – specifically, IBI therapy, which falls within ABA – are funded by the government. That’s the good news. The bad news is that not all individuals with autism qualify. Even though we had in our hot little hands a fifteen-page report detailing the level of George’s autism and what his strengths and deficits were, we had to take him to be assessed by a government social worker. The results of this assessment would determine our eligibility for services.

We were a collective bag of nerves on the day of the assessment: George because he was being lugged across the city to unfamiliar faces at a strange place, and me and my husband because so much was riding on this day. If the assessment did not go in our favour, we would have to fund the IBI therapy ourselves, and we hardly had two beans to rub together.

After the assessment, we couldn’t get a sense of which way the wind was blowing, and we went through three unbearable weeks before we got the results.

I cried when I finally got the news that George had been deemed eligible. Gut-wrenching sobs of relief for us, and tears of sorrow for all of those families who weren’t so lucky.

After languishing on the provincial waiting list for another year and a half, George finally started IBI therapy. We were nervous about it: we were well aware that if he did not make notable progress, he could be removed from the program, which was strapped for government funding.

As it turned out, George could have been a poster child for IBI. Going in, he had virtually no communication skills and no daily living skills, and a multitude of issues relating to behaviour and emotional regulation. We started seeing results within two weeks of him entering the program. He got better at making verbal requests, there were fewer scary head-banging incidents, and a true aptitude for numbers emerged.

In his first year of services, George made 23 months worth of gains. This was nothing short of phenomenal. No-one had expected him to launch himself on this kind of trajectory. The potential in this kid just exploded. Far from being discharged from the program, the staff at the therapy center were itching to see what they could accomplish with him.

Over the next two years, we gradually shifted the bulk of George’s time from the IBI program to the special ed class at his school. Almost every day we saw some form of progress. By the time he made the transition to full-time school, he was making requests using full sentences, he was initiating some simple social exchanges, and he had learned a number of valuable daily living skills. We also started seeing the emergence of his quirky sense of humour (it has to be said: the kid is funny.)

It hasn’t all been plain sailing. George still has some intense challenges. He panics when his hair is washed or his nails are cut. He still doesn’t talk unless he absolutely has to, and his social communication skills still lag far behind. He struggles with emotional regulation and has meltdowns that break my heart. Any change to his regular routine is enough to send him into a tailspin.

As hard as it is, and as much as I sometimes want to hide in a corner with my hands over my head, the good far outweighs the bad. When I look at George, I see a child who is smart and funny, who sees the world differently to the rest of us. I see a child whose way of thinking is totally unique yet sometimes, highly effective. He can focus intensely on something that interests him, and he pays careful attention to detail.

At the same time, he is chock-full of love, never short of a hug for me, his dad, and his little brother.

He is an amazing kid, and as long as he continues to receive the support he needs, the sky will be the limit for him.

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Apr 03 2012

#Autism, Animals and Independence


I wanted to share with you all another victory Emmett has experienced since getting his puppy, Bella. Bella is a Boxer puppy and Emmett’s new best friend. Our hope was that she would help to bring Emmett out of himself a little bit and we could continue to make some forward progress. I wanted to empower Emmett with a sense of independence, as well as responsibility. So far, Bella has not only made a great addition to the Lost and Tired family, but she has helped Emmett to do things that he has never been willing to do before.

He will now walk in the mud to go bring Bella back into the house after she goes potty. He as some significant sensory issues that have always interfered with him getting dirty. He normally will not tolerate his shoes getting muddy or wet. However, if Bella is involved, he is willing to do whatever it takes to care for her.

In the short video below, you will see Emmett, patiently trying to groom Bella. I only got the tail end of the process on film but you’ll get the point. He feels a sense of responsibility for her and wants to interdependently care for her as much as possible. She provides comfort for him when he is upset and consoles him when he’s in a fever flair and in lots of pain.

Animals and Autism can be a truly amazing combination. Please feel free to share your experiences with Animals and your Autistic child or child with special needs. :-)


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