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Mar 31 2013

Confessions of an #Autism Dad: Easter Meltdowns

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March 31, 2013

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In trying to get the boys ready to go to my parents house for Easter and everyone just started freaking out.  I think we’ve reached that point where both boys are passed their respective limits.

Elliott’s freaking out cause he doesn’t want to get dressed and Emmett is screaming because his socks are tight enough. 

This Daddy is beginning to lose his mind and so I’m in time out right now, while I try to get myself into a better place.  It really isn’t the boys fault, it’s unfair of me to expect them to handle everything that’s going on in our lives. 

That said, unfortunately, I’m only human and thus can only take so much. 

Please, let the rest of the day go smoother.  I think we will make an appearance and come home.  The boys can’t take anymore excitement and honestly, I can’t take them taking anymore excitement.


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Mar 28 2013

#Autism, #Anxiety and #Depression

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March 28, 2013

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Well it appears that Elliott is more affected by the death of Lizze’s Aunt than we thought. Whether is the loss itself or the impact he sees that it’s having on his family, I’m not sure.  Perhaps a little of both.

He started freaking out earlier today and when I got him to calm down, he explained through the tears in his eyes, that he doesn’t want to go to school on Thursday.

I asked him why.

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He told that his best friend hasn’t been at school because he’s been sick.  He doesn’t want to go because he doesn’t know if he’s coming back.

Remember what I said about generalization?

I was afraid this was going to happen and I was trying to avoid this.

When I explained to Elliott and Emmett that Aunt Paula was really sick and sometimes people who are really sick,  well….they don’t always get better. Sometimes they die and go to heaven.

I made it very clear that just because someone gets sick does not mean they are going to die.

One of the things I made sure to do was keep it simple, straight forward and as age appropriate as possible.  Now considering that I’m far from perfect and having never had this talk before, I thought I did pretty well.

Despite my efforts to avoid the boys generalizing the situation and associating someone being sick with death, clearly I came up a day late and a dollar short.

Elliott is worried about Lizze and worried about his friend.  His anxiety level is really high and I’ll give you an example of what I mean.

I asked the boys on the way home from Dr. Patti’s tonight (yes, we had Dr. Patti again), what they wanted to do this summer.  Emmett said that he wanted to build a sand castle.  Next thing I know, Elliott says, “I want to not have to go back to the doctor and have them feed me almonds to see if I’m still allergic.“ 

The fact that he’s focusing on that tells me just how stressed out he is. That isn’t even something that going to happen this summer.

Depending on how he’s doing in the morning, we may just keep him home and help him to relax.  Spring break starts on Friday anyway.

I’m just worried about him and I figured that maybe some guy time might help to reassure him. I just feel like he’s going through so much and if we take some extra time to help him feel more secure, than so be it. 


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Mar 18 2013

Hello dinner time meltdown

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March 18, 2013

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Emmett had a pretty big meltdown during dinner. We had breaded fish fillets (think big fish sticks) and he wanted to have his cut up, like everyone else.

Next thing we know, he’s freaking out and hitting himself in the face.

Apparently, he had wanted to change his mind out having them cut up but it was too late.  He had himself all worked up and was completely overstimulated. I scratched him back while Mommy spoke softly to him and we eventually calmed him down  enough to figure out what had set him off. 

I don’t know why he didn’t just ask for new fish? It wasn’t a big deal to us but it definitely was to him.  Anyways, after replacing his fish, he felt much better.

Poor guy, he is so sensitive to things like this.  In fact, he’s easily the most sensitive sensory wise, out of the 3 boys, especially when it comes to food. Followed closely by Elliott.

Gavin on the other hand, used to be so picky the would have to filter out all the visible seasoning in his pasta sauce before he would even look at it.  However, over the years Gavin has made amazing progress and is far and away the easiest to feed.  He’s willing to try new things as well. 

Maybe they other two will work through this as well and come out on the other side, better for it.

For now, we just have to take baby steps, like we did with Gavin. 


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Mar 13 2013

Hello My Name is Anxiety

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March 13, 2013

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This past week or so, Elliott has been more anxious than usual and that’s impacting him on multiple levels.    For starters, I was approached be the principal at Elliott’s school the other day because she’s worried about Elliott. 

We have a very close relationship with our kids school and so we talk all the time. 

Apparently, Elliott’s been refusing to eat while at school and that’s concerning to all involved. She wanted to let us know so that if there was anything they could do to help support Elliott, they wanted to help.

I was of course concerned to hear that but at the same time, not surprised. Elliott really been struggling lately. 

He’s an emotional roller coaster and wound way too tight.  I know a good portion of this is a result of being around Gavin last week.

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Gavin did really well last week,  but the boys are dealing with PTSD from everything Gavin has done to them in the past.  He could never have another another outburst and the boys would still have this type of visceral reaction.

As time goes by, Elliott will work out of this but he’s been hit with a trifecta of sorts.  First we have Gavin in the hospital last week, which had everyone worried and concerned. Then Gavin was home for the rest of the week. Elliott was also sick and off school last week as well and then of course we have my arch nemesis, Daylight savings time.

That’s a lot for anyone to handle, let alone an extremely sensitive little boy with Aspergers, that’s already prone to high levels of anxiety.

Emmett’s having a bit of a rough time as well and putting the two boys together exacerbates things and it like the perfect storm.

Thankfully, Gavin’s doing okay and seems to be relatively stable at the moment. That’s a load off everyone’s mind.  Hopefully, we can sorta pick up and move forward.

The weathers turned crappy again but Spring is right around the corner and that means  I certainly weather and frequent trips to the playground.  :-)


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Dec 21 2012

WTF is happening to Elliott

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December 21, 2012

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WTF has happened to my sweet Elliott Richard?  Anymore he is just such an emotional mess. I feel like he has just been pushed too far and is beginning to crack.

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He just screams and screams when the slightest thing doesn’t go his way. 

I’m so worried about him and I don’t know what to do. 

I try to spend as much one on one time with him as I can but there’s just not enough of me to go around. With Lizze being in the worst shape she has ever been, medically and emotionally, I’m stretched really thin.

I’m honestly beginning to feel like the only thing that is going to keep us together is a miracle.

I try really hard to be positive all the time but no amount of fluffy thinking and fairy dust is going to make this better. 

That said, if anyone has any extra miracles lying around, I could really use one for my family. I’ll be sure to do the same. 

At least this is the time of year for that.

Please keep Elliott in your thoughts. 

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Dec 20 2012

My little grill buddy

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December 20, 2012

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We cooked dinner on the grill tonight.  We’ve been known to do that on occasion.  However, what made this different was not what we cook but who helped me cook it. 

I designated Mr. Elliott Richard my grill buddy.

While he didn’t lite the grill, he did scrape it and load it with the food.  He also hung out while we waited for the coals to be ready. 

It was pretty fun and another opportunity to spend time with Elliott and learn about safety.  :-)

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