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Aug 11 2013

Do your kids struggle with food sensitivity?

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I was wondering if your kids with Autism have issues with food? Do they have a favorite that they eat almost exclusively?

Don’t feel bad, my kids are the same way.

We’ve gotten to a point where we simply want them to eat, so if it’s Ramon Noodles everyday, than so be it.  That doesn’t mean that we don’t try to expand their pallet.

Unfortunately, sensory issues such as texture, color, smell, visual appearance, taste and even food touching other foods, inhibit progress in this department.

Let’s trade experiences and see if we can help each other, help our kids. 🙂

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Aug 11 2013

Story time with my #Autistic son and his dog

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Something that I feel is extremely important for my kids is story time.  Gavin’s not really interested and I suppose I wouldn’t expect him to be. 

Elliott and Emmett on the other hand are at an age where they love story time. 

Yesterday, Emmett was having a rough time and Lizze suggested to him that he go pick out 4 of his favorite books and she’d read to him.  He did just that and was officially redirected.

It was really cute because Bella wanted to participate and so she climbed up and joined them.  It actually appeared that she was paying attention to the story, as she sat attentively listening. 

Do your kids like story time?

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Aug 10 2013

All Hell just broke loose: Update

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Update: In a rather stunning duh moment, I neglected to share that from what I have been told, the puppy is doing okay. I don’t know details as I haven’t seen the dog since this whole thing happened yesterday. However, considering what that poor thing endured yesterday, I’ll gladly accept “okay”.

I wanted to update you all as to what’s happened since everything went down yesterday and we had our third vicious dog attack of the summer.

I spoke with my neighbor and he informed me that the dog warden was out to visit the owners of the poor puppy that was viciously mauled by the male Blue Nose Pitbull yesterday afternoon.

The dog warden will be coming back to deal with the owners of the violent, very, very dog aggressive Blue Pit.

Statement will also be taken from all witnesses to these attacks.  I can provide statements for two of the three attacks. 

The goal of the neighborhood is to have this vicious dog removed from its owner and subsequently our neighborhood. Unfortunately, it may end up being destroyed but honestly, that’s what’s best as this dog is extremely violent. 

You have to remember that one of these attacks involved very small children. That’s not something to be taken lightly. 

I’ll let you know what happens as I learn more about what the dog warden is going to be doing. 

Remember, the Pitbull breed itself is actually a very good breed, despite popular belief to the contrary. Unfortunately, their are really stupid people out there that use them for fighting and make them violent and dangerous.  Any animal can be made to be violent. 

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Aug 10 2013

Reactive Attachment Disorder: When one parents in denial

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We all have our challenges and we all have our perverbial cross to bare.  I’ve got to say that our oldest child Gavin, is 50 shades of challenge, with 10 shades of mystery on the side.

Whenever I think I’ve finally got him figured out, he proves me wrong.

Tonight we were having a rough time getting Emmett and Elliott to go to sleep. Elliott is anxious and afraid but won’t tell us what’s bothering him, outside of the nightmares he keeps talking about. 

Emmett was just in a bad mood and didn’t want to go to bed so he was being difficult. 

Gavin goes to bed like a dream.  We give him his meds and he brushes his teeth, goes potty and is then off to bed. Tonight, he decides to be difficult as well. 

He went to bed like normal but then just as Emmett closes his eyes and Elliott finally calms down is is almost asleep, Gavin comes out of his bedroom and asks to use the bathroom, again. 

I say again because he just used it about 10 minutes ago. 

With Gavin, you can never assume anything.  So the moment I assume that he just needs to go potty, it’ll turn out that he was doing this to make it more difficult for Lizze and I to get the boys to sleep. If I assume that he’s just messing with us, and tell him to stay in bed, he’ll have an accident.

You will quite literally drive yourself crazy trying to figure this stuff out. 

I used to think that his accidents were legitimate accidents but it turns out that it is something that is very common in kids with Reactive Attachment Disorder and even Bipolar kids as well. These accidents are willful acts meant to disrupt and create chaos. 

If you’re a long time reader, you might remember me mentioning that Gavin used to threaten us with wetting himself, if we didn’t give him his way. We of course didn’t give him his way and so were would pee his pants. 

He even did this to Dr. Pattie, during an several appointments. 

Believe it or not, I actually forgot about that until Dr. Pattie reminded me recently, during our discussion about Gavin’s recent accidents.

The truly messed up part of this whole thing is that no matter what we do or how we address this, we have no idea if we’re actually making the right choice. If we assume this is outside of his control and we’re wrong, he wins. If we assume that he’s doing this on purpose and he’s not…..well that’s just messed up on our part. 

I hate the idea of punishing him for something that is truly outside of his control. 

We don’t punish him if he has an accident because of everything I just stated above.  However, when it comes to what happened tonight and him wanting to go potty again and in order to ask us, he has to wake up his brothers that we tried so desperately to get to sleep…….it’s another story. 

If I asked his doctors about this, they’d give me that look like, come on Rob, you know exactly what he was doing. 

Something that’s important to know about me is that between Lizze, myself and all his doctors, I’m the one prone to giving him the benefit of the doubt. The truth is that no matter how many times I’m proven wrong, I always remember that one year old little boy that I took on as my own.  I remember everything that his biological father and paternal grandparents put him through. 

I remember how he was before everything changed and part of me has never dealt with that loss.  To be completely honest, a very large part of me is in denial about who and what he has turned into.

This has been a source of contention between Lizze and I on many occasions because when he targets her, he does so very deliberately. He also does this at times when I’m not there to see it.  This is called splitting and is meant to create chaos and tension between Lizze and I.  Sadly, he’s very, very good at this. 

Lizze and I have since gotten mostly on the same page.  Our medical and psychological support teams have helped us to see exactly what’s going on and address the problem at its source. 

I wouldn’t wish this life on anyone.  Anyone that has this life, understands exactly what I’m talking about.It’s so hard to wrap your brain around this kind of stuff because you have to first accept and acknowledge that a rather unassuming like boy is capable of these things. 

All I can say is that you would not believe the things that my son is capable of doing and I’m talking about things that have been witnessed by multiple people and well documented.  The things we don’t know about yet, are the ones that scare me the most.

This is why we have to take every precaution and more often than not, assume the worst.

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Aug 10 2013

Today’s Backyard Adventure: What’s hiding in our fire pit?

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For today’s Backyard Adventure, we explored life underneath the rocks, surrounding our fire pit.  While there is an unbelievable amount of life that can be found there, today’s focus will be on on creature in particular. 

This creature is known as Thamnophis sirtalis, otherwise known as the Common Garter Snake. This is a non-venomous reptile can be found all around North America.

During our Backyard Adventure today, we discovered three different Garter Snakes, all fairly young.

The Garter Snake can grow up to about 4ft in length but most remain a bit smaller.  The specimens we found in our backyard today most likely feed on crickets (of which there are many), worms and other small insects.

As they get bigger they can eat small fish, tadpoles, small frogs and other things like that.

As with all reptiles, the Garter Snake is cold blooded, meaning that it needs an external source to stay warm.  Typically, that source is the sun. During the winter months, Garter Snakes in colder climates will hibernate.

We live in the city and our backyard is full of these amazing little snakes.  In fact, we found these three right away. They were hiding under some rocks and enjoying the heat emitting from the sun soaked rocks. 

Lizze and the boys enjoyed carefully turning over rocks and discovering what was underneath. 

Everyone touched the snakes in order to feel the smooth, scaly texture of their skin.  Snakes aren’t slimmy at all.  Lizze and Emmett were both willing to hold one of the baby snakes and did so with great care.

While they were holding the snakes and looking under the rocks, I taught them the basic things about Garter Snakes, mentioned above.

One thing that you always have to very, very careful of, is ever approaching a snake that you are unfamiliar with. Some snakes can be very, very dangerous.  Never ever approach a snake without a grownup (one that has knowledge of how to tell if a snake is venomous or not).

Always remember to wash your hands after handling a snake.

While I was doing some research for our little Backyard Adventure, I was reminded that I have to remember to be careful as well.  I had forgotten that there are in fact, venomous snakes in Ohio.

You can check out the Ohio Department of Natural Resources website for more information on these snakes, especially if you live in Ohio.

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Aug 10 2013

Today’s Autastic Victory 😉

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First of all, I know Autastic isn’t a word but it was a nice blend between Autism and Fantastic.  See how that works.  🙂

Anyway, the boys have all been getting along today. Nothings perfect but it’s been pretty damn close this morning. 

Lizze and I were sitting on the couch and Gavin and the boys were sitting on the other one.  Gavin was reading to the boys from the Pokemon handbook. He was teaching them all about the Pokemon they were interested in. 

It was really nice to all be able to calmly sit and enjoy each others company. 

This doesn’t happen very often but when it does, it’s an Autastic Victory.

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Aug 10 2013

What makes me happy?

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Admittedly, I’ve not been having a lot of really good days lately.  I’m completely and utterly overwhelmed, with a dwindling sense of hope. 

Unfortunately, I can’t allow myself to succumb to these feelings of despair because I have too many people relying on me. I have to find ways of snapping myself out of this, so I can find the strength and courage to soldier on.

One of the things that I try to do is make it a point to find something that makes me feel happy. My family obviously makes me happy but sometimes, I have to focus on something just for me. 

This will probably sound a little strange but I absolutely love The Penguins of Madagascar cartoon. 

We have a few of the multi-episode movies and I always feel really good while watching this.  The Penguins are just awesome but they always make me laugh, especially Rico.

Sooooo guess what we’re watching this morning? You’re goddamn right!!!  The Penguins of Madagascar. 🙂

Thankfully, the boys love watching this as well and so it works out quite well right now. 

What is something that makes you happy? Something you can do for yourself, to try and get through a tough time? I’d love to hear about your experience..

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