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Nov 05 2012

Get #Autism help or advice while on the go


As many of you know, I launched a support forum earlier this year. There were hundreds of members and tons of interesting conversations going on.

The Autism Help Forums weren’t for Autism related things only. This forum supports the entire special needs community.

Unfortunately, I lost the database and I had to rebuild the forums, from scratch. This means that I am rebuilding the community and need your help. 

However, out of the ashes of what was, has emerged something better.

I have recently relaunched the Autism Help Forums, with updated software and better Facebook integration.

Visit the Autism Help Forums, sign up and and introduce yourself. I realize that it can be tough to start the conversation but we need to break the ice sometime.

However, I’m most excited to announce the release of a brand new, vastly improved Autism Help app. Unfortunately, at the moment, this app is only available on Android.

However, if you’re using an Apple product, look in the app store for “Tapatalk“. You can also visit their site to find out if your device is supported.

These two apps are essentially the same. The difference being that the Autism Help app is customized for the Autism Help Forums and the standard Tapatalk app is not.

Both apps are free.

These apps will allow you to register, use and participate in the forums while on your mobile device. This is great if you have something come up and you need to vent or ask a question.

The Autism Help Forums are not meant to replace professional medical advice. However, sometimes it’s nice to get feedback and advice from people who actually live in the trenches and have been in your shoes.

That’s what the Autism Help Forums are for.  

You can visit the forums by visiting or by clicking the banner below.

 To grab the Autism Help app for Android based devices, please click on the logo below or search the Google Play store for “Autism Help” on your wireless device. 

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Sep 15 2012

Does this make me a bad parent


This is meant to help educate the people unfamiliar with the struggles of special needs parenting. I want to give an example of how I have dropped the ball and why it can happen.

Like many other people, I very often find myself getting behind in a great many things. These things range from bills, housework, yard work and bills to emails, writing, more bills and a bit more housework.

I get so stressed out over these things and no matter how hard I try,  I just can’t keep my head above water.

As a special needs family,  these things hit us really hard and because we are able to absorb fewer things than others, life can begin to spiral out of control. This is when I’m most likely to drop the ball. This is when things can fall through the cracks, even some of the important things.

Does this make me a bad parent? No.

What it does make me is a an overwhelmed parent with dwindling physical and emotional resources.

My guess is that at least some of you reading this can relate.

Because my family life is so…..complex, my options are very limited. In fact,  many times my hands are simply tied and I can’t do anything but run around during putting out the fires.

Getting caught up or dare I say,  improving our lives is literally like chasing my tail.  It’s a pipe dream or at least that’s how it feels.

Forgive me for making this assumption,  but I imagine you can get pretty down on yourself for feeling like you should be doing more.

Maybe I’m wrong. Maybe it’s just me.

The truth is,  I’m doing everything in my power to make things livable for my family.  However,  I live with this crushing sense of guilt because whatever I do, isn’t enough. I set this impossibly high standard for myself and can never live up to it. It’s like I set myself up to fail.

As a father, no one on earth is harder on me than I am on myself.

I work from home,  not because I want to but because I have to.  That requires a huge amount of sacrifice as well as a substantial loss of income. It’s something that has become a necessary evil though and a cross that I must carry.

So many families are in a similar boat. They do everything in their power to help their special needs child and it comes at a cost.

Sometimes that cost is financial.  Other times it’s sleep or health related. Heck, this journey has cost us friends and even family.

I know that this may seem like whining to some but all I’m trying to do is relay my personal experience and help those of you going through something similar, to maybe not feel so alone. It would be an added bonus if this helped to provide insight for those out there who are quick to judge a book without know the content of it’s pages.


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Aug 19 2012

Can a dog have PICA?


I’ll spare you the pictures but Bella has been puking up sticks all morning.  That’s right, sticks.

Bella eats everything she can fit into her mouth.  She has tons of toys and gets plenty of food each day.

I have found Crayola poop outside, on more than one occasion. She loves to eat crayons.

We do our best to keep her from doing this stuff but when she goes outside,  she literally rips branches off of the small trees and bushes.

I’ve no previous experience with Boxers.  Is this normal?

**Thanks for reading**

       -Lost and Tired

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Jun 13 2012

Why I do what I do


People ask me all the time,  “how do you do it?”  The truth is,  I don’t know. I don’t know how I keep going.

Having said that,  I have three really good reasons to keep doing it. 

These guys are my motivation for everything in my life. At the end of the day,  I love to check in on them while their sleeping.  It’s just one of those priceless and peaceful moments that only seem to come out at night.

I totally live for these guys….




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Jun 12 2012

My battle with depression


I thought I would take a minute and update you all on how I’m doing.  It’s been a while since I talked about my battle with depression.

My personal war with depression is still raging on. Every day is a battle for control.  The depression wants control over me but I do everything possible to stay in control of it.

With everything we have going on, keeping ahead of the depression is vital to moving forward. 

In order to do that,  I take my medications (Paxil,  40mg per day) and really,  really try to exercise every day. I have my blog and maintaining it is extremely therapeutic.  Sharing our story from my perspective allows me to unload all of my feelings and leave it here.  By doing so,  it allows me to walk around carrying less weight.

It’s important to my family’s survival that I be at my absolute best. With a family that requires as much of my time and energy,  it’s really easy to get burned out and let the depression take over.

Thankfully,  I’ve been doing pretty well lately.  Honestly,  I’ve been better but I’ve also been worse. I just try and take things a day at a time and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

I’m determined to keep moving forward and tread water when need be.

Having depression is nothing to be ashamed of.  It’s important to have an open and honest dialog when it comes to things like depression. So many people suffer in silence because they are embarrassed or afraid of the stigma attached to depression.

I want you to know,  that you have nothing to be embarrassed about. I’m not embarrassed and I’m admitting this to thousands and thousands of people.

Please,  if you need help,  please talk to your doctor or a trusted friend or family member.  Get help.  There is life after depression… :-)

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Jun 05 2012

Today’s Victory: Overcoming fears


Today was major victory for my little Elliott Richard.  However,  before I get into that,  I need to share how Daddy screwed up.

I mentioned before about summer vacation starting.  Well,  it is starting,  just not yet. For whatever reason,  I thought today was Elliott’s last day of school.  However,  as it turns out,  the last day is Thursday.

Today was the field trip to the recreation center. There was to be swimming,  games and lots of other types of fun. The school wanted to reward the kids for having such an awesome school year. You may recall however,  that Elliott didn’t want to go because he hates the water.

I had told him that he can choose to go or stay home and start his vacation early. However,  when I said that,  I was thinking today was his last day of school and it wasn’t.

That actually changed everything. He really needed to go and we had a big long talk about it.

In the end,  Elliott went in the field trip,  which I think is so awesome because he gets to spend the day,  just being a kid. I’m so proud of him and grateful that the school was so flexible with him.  They explained everything to him and told him he didn’t have to do anything he didn’t want to.

While,  at this point,  I still don’t know how the day went,  I’m confident that he had lots of fun.

Having said all that,  I’m awarding a Today’s Victory to one Elliott Richard. He went on his field trip,  even though he was scared.  That takes a lot of guts and I’m extremely proud of him for that.  :-)

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May 29 2012

The rule of three’s


I think we are all aware of the rules of three’s.  You know the one that says,  everything happens in three’s. While I’m not a superstitious guy,  I have seen this rule play out,  time and time again.

In my personal experience,  I usually see this happen when someone on the Lost and Tired family gets sick. 

Typically,  it’s never just one of us that gets sick,  it’s three of us. For example,  Elliott has been sick with a head cold for about a week now.  About 2 days ago,  Emmett joined him in the head cold arena.

While both boys are still dealing with the runny nose and sneezing,  Lizze is the latest to end up, under the weather.

That makes three.

Ironically,  Gavin,  the only person in the house without an immune system,  is as healthy as can be expected.  No head cold or runny nose for him.  I joke about that but it’s honestly a blessing.  We never want Gavin to be sick because he could go down hill quickly. Besides,  the poor kid already has enough on his plate and deserves the break.

Elliott should be fine for school in the morning.  Lizze and Emmett will hopefully feel better soon.  I hope whoever is watching over Gavin keeps up the good work…

**Thanks for reading**

       -Lost and Tired

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