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Mar 17 2012

I received an award today


I received an award this morning.  To be completely honest, I’m not exactly sure what I did to deserve this but someone sure felt I deserved it and that someone was Emmett.

He told me that it was my award and that had to put in on my shirt and not my skin.
On my shirt it went and I wore it proudly, until it feel off at some point and I lost it.  :-(


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Dec 28 2011

The Monkey Dance


Alright,  the day has already started to go downhill.  I went into the bathroom this morning and found a mess.  It had all the hallmark signs of Gavin being responsible. 
I simply asked him about it and he immediately began,  what I’m going to call the Monkey Dance.

He began jumping up and down,  all while dramatically flailing his arms above his head. All I did was ask him if he had made the mess.  His response,  aside from the monkey dance,  was to say,  “probably yes and probably no”. 

I said to him in reply,  “Gavin,  you either did or you didn’t”.  All he would say,  while continuing to jump around was,  “I don’t know, probably yes and probably no”.
I get why he was answering this way.  He didn’t want to get in trouble by telling me the truth,  or he didn’t know how to answer.  Most likely,  he didn’t want to incriminate himself.

This lead to our first,  award winning meltdown of the day.  It was only 7am.  That doesn’t give me much hope for the day.

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Dec 11 2011

I’m only human


Today is one of those days where all the screaming, whining and crying is going to push me over the edge. I know that most of these behaviors are outside of the boys control but goddammit, if it’s not just relentless today.

Emmett will take something from Elliott. This will send Elliott into a screaming and crying fit, because Emmett’s secret weapon to get what he wants, is hitting. Once Elliott starts crying, it takes forever for him to regain his composure. Simply talking to him will set him off again, so it’s best to let it play out.

This will typically spark all the drama. As soon as I correct Emmett for hitting Elliott, he just screams this blood curdling scream. This will go on for quite some time and redirection doesn’t seem to work. It’s like they are competing to see who can push Daddy over the edge the fastest.

However, despite both their attempts, the award for who can push Daddy over the edge the fastest goes to Gavin.

Last night Gavin came downstairs with a few other pairs of socks that he has destroyed. Now I have to go out to the store today and get him new socks as he literally doesn’t have any left. However, this time, Gavin is going to be paying for them. I refuse to buy him any more socks so long as he continues to destroy them, inside of a week. Maybe that’s wrong of me but at this point, I just don’t care.

Gavin is also tippy toe dancing on my very last nerve with all the manipulation.

If we give Gavin an inch, he’ll try and take a foot. If we give Gavin a foot, he’ll try and take a yard. You get the point. He does this with everything.

I wanted to give Gavin a chance to play a game on Emmett’s Android4Autism device. So what I do is allow Gavin to help Emmett when he needs help. This gives Gavin a chance to play but at the same time it’s pretty limiting. Gavin, doesn’t do well when playing video games, unless they are in short bursts. That’s why allowing him to help, works so well, at least in theory.

However, what ended up happening was Gavin literally following Emmett around the house, asking him if he needed help playing a game. Emmett wasn’t even playing the game at that point. Gavin was trying to get Emmett to play the game, for the sole purpose of him being able to help.

As soon as I put a stop to that and explained to Gavin why I did so, I was graced with another meltdown.

I’m so sick and tired of the manipulation. Over the years, it’s gotten to the point where we have to question Gavin’s motives for everything. More often than not, he has an angle. I hate having to question everything he does, especially in light of all he is physically going through.

I’m frustrated, overwhelmed and honestly, a bit angry.

By writing this down I can purge and at the same time, provide insight into the inner workings of the Lost and Tired  family. Also, I would hope this doesn’t need to be said but just to cover all my bases, here it goes. Just because I’m angry or frustrated with Gavin or the other boys, doesn’t mean I don’t love them. In fact, I share these things on here as a way of venting so that I can be a better parent to them.

Venting allows me to purge and then walk away. I never want my frustrations to affect my ability to be a good father to my boys. I love them more than anything in the world. The problem is that I’m only human and I’m tasked with a job that often requires super human abilities, of which I have none. Hopefully that makes sense.

I haven’t been at this point in quite some time but as things become more and more difficult, I will need to purge like this more frequently. That’s kinda how I got this blog started in the first place.

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Aug 11 2011

Please vote for Lost and Tired


Hello everyone,

I’m excited to announce that I’m in the running for Parents Magazine 2011 Best Daddy Blog award. If you support the Lost and Tired blog then may I please have your vote. These types of things are a great way to spread Autism Awareness. Help put Autism Awareness in the spot light. You can vote by simply click on the button below. Thank you in advance for taking to time to read what I have to say and THANK YOU for all the support you have shone my family during these trying times.

 I think you do have to register for the site as that’s how they track whether you have already voted. It only takes a second and it’s for a good cause.

I truly appreciate everyone’s support…


May I Please have your vote?


 <—- Click here to cast your vote.




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May 22 2011

A Loving Lampposts GIVEAWAY has partnered with Cinema Libre Studio to give away a FREE copy of the award winning film, Loving Lampposts: Living Autistic by Todd Drezner.

Here is how we are going to play this game. I’m going to keep it VERY simple (for my benefit). All you need to do is leave a comment on this post. As EVERYONE will get ONE entry per comment. Comment as many times as you would like. I said I was keeping this simple….remember. The winner will be selected at random via Pick Giveaway Plugin for WordPress. Also please feel free to “Like” my blog. The “Like” button is on the top right.

This contest will run from the time this posts until Friday , May 27th @ 8pm. The winner will be announced in a new post at that time. So be sure to check back on Friday around 8:30pm. You will have 48hours to contact me in order to claim your prize. The DVD will be shipped to your address directly from the Cinema Libre Studio.   

Please feel free to share this on twitter and Facebook. The more the merrier.

This is open to US residents ONLY.

Read about Loving Lampposts: Living Autistic below.



“As autism has exploded into the public consciousness over the last 20 years, two opposing questions have been asked about the condition: is it a devastating sickness to be cured? Or is it a variation of the human brain — just a different way to be human?

After his son’s diagnosis, filmmaker Todd Drezner visits the front lines of the autism wars. We meet the “recovery movement,” which views autism as a tragic epidemic brought on by environmental toxins. Operating outside the boundaries of mainstream medicine, these parents, doctors, and therapists search for unconventional treatments that can “reverse” autism and restore their children to normal lives.

We meet the ‘neurodiversity’ movement, which argues that autism should be accepted and autistic people supported. This group argues that the focus on treatments and cures causes the wider society to view autistic people as damaged and sick. Acceptance is the better way, but how do you practice acceptance of autism in a world where the very word can terrify parents?

And we meet a too often ignored group: autistic adults. It’s these adults who show just how tricky it is to judge an autistic person’s life. Is an autistic woman who directs academic research about autism recovered? What if the same woman has trouble speaking and uses text-to-speech software to communicate? Is an autistic man who lives in his own apartment recovered? What if his mother must hire people to do his laundry and take him out in the evenings?

This wide angle view of autism makes clear what’s at stake in the autism wars. Will we live in a world dominated by autism conferences where vendors hawk vitamins and hyperbaric chambers to parents desperate for a cure? Or will we provide the support that autistic adults need to lead the best lives they can? And can these two worlds possibly co-exist?”


Here is the official movie trailer:


Loving Lampposts Trailer from Loving Lampposts on Vimeo.

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Mar 20 2010

Welcome home


I have decided to move my blog from blogger to here. My wife was locked out of her “Award Winning” blog today for what they claimed was terms of service violations. She has had that blog for 4 or 5 years and never violated anything. We believe someone filed a complaint as a “passive aggressive” attack. Anyway, she will be moving here also and when she is up and running I’ll share the link.

Thanks for following

Lost and Tired

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