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Aug 12 2013

Pictures from our Sunday afternoon trip to the playground

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Lizze and I took the boys to the playground Sunday afternoon.  I want the boys as active as humanly possible.  Exercise is so important and we want them to establish healthy habits at a very young age. 

It’s also beneficial for then from a sensory angle as well.  All the running, jumping and crashing, provides them with the fix they need to help them be a little less energetic at home.  🙂

Check out the pictures below and tell me if you think they had some sensory friendly fun.  🙂

Gavin’s discovered the joy of jumping off a swing.  It’s taken him 13 years to make this discovery but better late than never.  Seriously though, he had a ton of fun but we have to watch that he doesn’t overdo it.

Elliott decided to go slide surfing while we were there today. It was nice to see him do something a bit outside of his comfort zone.

Emmett was quite fond of this rocket ship and pole. I used to play on this same rocket ship when I was in grade school.

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Aug 11 2013

Operation Hope: Focusing on Gavin this week

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This week is going to be focused mainly on Gavin. Our priority is getting him to his IVIG Infusion as soon as we get the date and time. We’ll probably have that time at some point Monday morning.

We are putting the whole week on hold until this is finalized.

I’m not sure what else is on the agenda but I imagine it will be made clear as the week goes on. Hopefully, Monday will be gentle and we can all survive.

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Aug 11 2013

What I miss most about my life before becoming an #Autism parent

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I’ve been an Autism Dad since 2005 and even prior.  My oldest just wasn’t diagnosed until 2005. I’d like to say that our journey has been a smooth one bit that would be a lie.

Along this journey, our two other children will be diagnosed as being on the Autism Spectrum as well.

Our lives are very challenging but also rewarding. Most of all though, our lives are exhausting. Completely and utterly exhausting.

However, knowing everything I know, I would still do it all again.

The simple truth is that not a beat of my heart goes by that I don’t desperately love my kids, challenges and all.  I would do anything for them as I already have, countless times.

Having said that, there are things about my life prior to being a special needs parent or Autism Dad, that I miss with every fiber of my being. 

One of the things I think I miss the most about my life is probably the stability. Sure, I suppose peace and quite would rank up there at some point as well.

I miss my career. I miss my friends and I miss all the things that stressed me out during that period of my life because they wouldn’t even register anymore. I miss dating my wife and I also miss our health.

With that said, as tempting as it would be to revisit those days, I love my kids too much to ever go back.  As exhausting and tiring as they are, I would be lost without them.

What if anything to miss most about your life before becoming an Autism or special needs parent?

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Aug 11 2013

Do your kids struggle with food sensitivity?

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I was wondering if your kids with Autism have issues with food? Do they have a favorite that they eat almost exclusively?

Don’t feel bad, my kids are the same way.

We’ve gotten to a point where we simply want them to eat, so if it’s Ramon Noodles everyday, than so be it.  That doesn’t mean that we don’t try to expand their pallet.

Unfortunately, sensory issues such as texture, color, smell, visual appearance, taste and even food touching other foods, inhibit progress in this department.

Let’s trade experiences and see if we can help each other, help our kids. 🙂

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Aug 11 2013

Story time with my #Autistic son and his dog

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Something that I feel is extremely important for my kids is story time.  Gavin’s not really interested and I suppose I wouldn’t expect him to be. 

Elliott and Emmett on the other hand are at an age where they love story time. 

Yesterday, Emmett was having a rough time and Lizze suggested to him that he go pick out 4 of his favorite books and she’d read to him.  He did just that and was officially redirected.

It was really cute because Bella wanted to participate and so she climbed up and joined them.  It actually appeared that she was paying attention to the story, as she sat attentively listening. 

Do your kids like story time?

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Aug 10 2013

All Hell just broke loose: Update

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Update: In a rather stunning duh moment, I neglected to share that from what I have been told, the puppy is doing okay. I don’t know details as I haven’t seen the dog since this whole thing happened yesterday. However, considering what that poor thing endured yesterday, I’ll gladly accept “okay”.

I wanted to update you all as to what’s happened since everything went down yesterday and we had our third vicious dog attack of the summer.

I spoke with my neighbor and he informed me that the dog warden was out to visit the owners of the poor puppy that was viciously mauled by the male Blue Nose Pitbull yesterday afternoon.

The dog warden will be coming back to deal with the owners of the violent, very, very dog aggressive Blue Pit.

Statement will also be taken from all witnesses to these attacks.  I can provide statements for two of the three attacks. 

The goal of the neighborhood is to have this vicious dog removed from its owner and subsequently our neighborhood. Unfortunately, it may end up being destroyed but honestly, that’s what’s best as this dog is extremely violent. 

You have to remember that one of these attacks involved very small children. That’s not something to be taken lightly. 

I’ll let you know what happens as I learn more about what the dog warden is going to be doing. 

Remember, the Pitbull breed itself is actually a very good breed, despite popular belief to the contrary. Unfortunately, their are really stupid people out there that use them for fighting and make them violent and dangerous.  Any animal can be made to be violent. 

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Aug 10 2013

Reactive Attachment Disorder: When one parents in denial

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We all have our challenges and we all have our perverbial cross to bare.  I’ve got to say that our oldest child Gavin, is 50 shades of challenge, with 10 shades of mystery on the side.

Whenever I think I’ve finally got him figured out, he proves me wrong.

Tonight we were having a rough time getting Emmett and Elliott to go to sleep. Elliott is anxious and afraid but won’t tell us what’s bothering him, outside of the nightmares he keeps talking about. 

Emmett was just in a bad mood and didn’t want to go to bed so he was being difficult. 

Gavin goes to bed like a dream.  We give him his meds and he brushes his teeth, goes potty and is then off to bed. Tonight, he decides to be difficult as well. 

He went to bed like normal but then just as Emmett closes his eyes and Elliott finally calms down is is almost asleep, Gavin comes out of his bedroom and asks to use the bathroom, again. 

I say again because he just used it about 10 minutes ago. 

With Gavin, you can never assume anything.  So the moment I assume that he just needs to go potty, it’ll turn out that he was doing this to make it more difficult for Lizze and I to get the boys to sleep. If I assume that he’s just messing with us, and tell him to stay in bed, he’ll have an accident.

You will quite literally drive yourself crazy trying to figure this stuff out. 

I used to think that his accidents were legitimate accidents but it turns out that it is something that is very common in kids with Reactive Attachment Disorder and even Bipolar kids as well. These accidents are willful acts meant to disrupt and create chaos. 

If you’re a long time reader, you might remember me mentioning that Gavin used to threaten us with wetting himself, if we didn’t give him his way. We of course didn’t give him his way and so were would pee his pants. 

He even did this to Dr. Pattie, during an several appointments. 

Believe it or not, I actually forgot about that until Dr. Pattie reminded me recently, during our discussion about Gavin’s recent accidents.

The truly messed up part of this whole thing is that no matter what we do or how we address this, we have no idea if we’re actually making the right choice. If we assume this is outside of his control and we’re wrong, he wins. If we assume that he’s doing this on purpose and he’s not…..well that’s just messed up on our part. 

I hate the idea of punishing him for something that is truly outside of his control. 

We don’t punish him if he has an accident because of everything I just stated above.  However, when it comes to what happened tonight and him wanting to go potty again and in order to ask us, he has to wake up his brothers that we tried so desperately to get to sleep…….it’s another story. 

If I asked his doctors about this, they’d give me that look like, come on Rob, you know exactly what he was doing. 

Something that’s important to know about me is that between Lizze, myself and all his doctors, I’m the one prone to giving him the benefit of the doubt. The truth is that no matter how many times I’m proven wrong, I always remember that one year old little boy that I took on as my own.  I remember everything that his biological father and paternal grandparents put him through. 

I remember how he was before everything changed and part of me has never dealt with that loss.  To be completely honest, a very large part of me is in denial about who and what he has turned into.

This has been a source of contention between Lizze and I on many occasions because when he targets her, he does so very deliberately. He also does this at times when I’m not there to see it.  This is called splitting and is meant to create chaos and tension between Lizze and I.  Sadly, he’s very, very good at this. 

Lizze and I have since gotten mostly on the same page.  Our medical and psychological support teams have helped us to see exactly what’s going on and address the problem at its source. 

I wouldn’t wish this life on anyone.  Anyone that has this life, understands exactly what I’m talking about.It’s so hard to wrap your brain around this kind of stuff because you have to first accept and acknowledge that a rather unassuming like boy is capable of these things. 

All I can say is that you would not believe the things that my son is capable of doing and I’m talking about things that have been witnessed by multiple people and well documented.  The things we don’t know about yet, are the ones that scare me the most.

This is why we have to take every precaution and more often than not, assume the worst.

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