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Jan 21 2013

The lighter side of #Autism: Safe and Sound


I grabbed this picture earlier. Emmett had fallen asleep while sitting with Mommy under the electric blanket on the couch.

This was just too cute and I wanted to freeze that moment and subsequently share it with all of you.

Isn’t he just adorable? The correct answer is yes. :-)


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Jan 20 2013

That’s the goal


Good morning everyone. I hope your Sunday is a pleasant one. So far, Sunday has been pretty good to us.

The boys are getting along, for the most part.

Lizze is suffering a great deal this morning though. I’m going to try and keep this a very low key kinda day.

Hopefully, I can get some writing and housework done this afternoon. That’s the goal anyway.

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Dec 24 2012

Merry Christmas….Get Over It


I’m gonna climb on my soapbox for a few minutes here and get something off my chest. I don’t mean to sound like a jerk or insensitive to anyones personal beliefs but here it goes.

I wish you a Merry Christmas…you don’t like it….deal with it.

I’m so tired of being politically correct and trying to not offend someone. If me wishing you a Merry Christmas offends you, get over it.


I absolutely respect your personal beliefs and if I happen to know what they are, I would wish you a happy (insert holiday here). However, if I don’t, I’m not going to hide behind Happy Holidays anymore.

If I wish you a Merry Christmas, it has nothing to do with religious beliefs. I’m simply wishing you well. While I realize that not everyone celebrates Christmas, however the overwhelming majority in the United States do.

I’m so sick of how intolerant we have become as a society.

People are so easily offended anymore and we are stripping our country of everything that made us unique in the world.

So you don’t share my beliefs or celebrate the same holidays, so what? I don’t care if you believe something different. Maybe you celebrate Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Boxing Day or something else all together. That’s awesome.

I’m thrilled to see seasonal decor for people with different cultural beliefs. That’s what makes the world go round.

I don’t force mine on you and you don’t force yours on me.

If you stopped me on the street and wished me a Happy Kwanzaa, I might be a bit confused but I certainly wouldn’t be offended. I would simply say thank you, and appreciate the gesture of the act of kindness it was intended to be.

Our skin needs to thicken up just a bit. We need to chill out and simply be grateful that someone, a perfect stranger even, is wishing us well. We should see the holidays for what they are, a time to celebrate, be with loved ones and be kind to those around us.

I love you all. You’re like extended family to me. Please try to be open minded this holiday season. Please don’t make me climb back up here. I have a thing with heights. :-)

I’m climbing down off this soapbox and I promise to put it away for a little while.

Merry Christmas……

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Dec 23 2012

#Autism and Christmas


Lizze and I are constantly reevaluating out plans for the holidays. Having 3 children on the autism spectrum, we’ve learned not to make many plans because undoubtedly, they will change. These changes are very often last minute.

As it stands right now, will will go to my parents on Christmas day and Lizze’s parents that night.


However, everything is subject to the current demeanor if the Gorski clan.

If the boys are already overstimulated, we may decide it’s best to stay back and let them just play at home. If they are doing alright, we will go forward with our plans and perhaps just play it by ear while we are there.

If we need to leave, we simply leave.

Speaking for myself, as a special needs parent, this is one of the tougher things I have to do. Doing what’s best for the kids usually means putting my own needs and wants to the side.

During the holidays, it’s harder because it’s nice to be able to spend time with family that we haven’t seen all year.

Having to skip or cuts these visits short, really sucks.

With that said, I’m a father and husband first and foremost. My kids come first and if that means we stay home, we stay home. If it means we have to leave early, we leave early.

How have your kids been doing as Christmas approaches? Are you seeing overstimulation or stress? What measures have you taken to help your kids to make it through the holiday in one piece?

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Dec 12 2012

Lost and Tired plans for 2013


The approach that I have taken with Lost and Tired is why I think it’s so successful.  I don’t believe in telling people how to do things. I think that everyone‘s situation is different. There may be similarities but also differences.

I’m a huge proponent of simply sharing ones experience and allowing others to take from it what they may.

The way I see it is, I’m Lost and Tired, who am I to tell you that to do. 

Having said that, I also believe in leading by example. I like to share with you all what has worked for my family and what hasn’t.  What this does is present information that you can use to put something together that works for you family or situation.

By bringing everyone together and creating an ongoing dialog, we are all able to learn from each other.

I’m my opinion, experience in the best teacher.  Sometimes it’s comforting to hear from someone who’s actually lived through what you are struggling with.

It helps to know that you’re not alone and that someone has already been down this path before and can offer advice or guidance if needed.

This of course, should never replace competent medical advice but it’s sometimes good for peace of mind. 

I’m really proud of how well this site is doing and how many people are sharing there knowledge and experience. I’ve personally made so many friends and to be quite honest, I feel like a big family.

I hope you all feel the same way. 

As we carry into the holiday season and cross the threshold into the new year I hope to continue to grow, learn and share, in new and exciting ways.

You have all taught me so much.  I only hope I have been able to do the same.  :-)

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Nov 25 2012

Addressing serious food allergies at school


Last week Elliott was officially diagnosed with a tree nut allergy.  It’s only been a few days and we’re still trying to wrap our heads around this and figure out what we do at home.

What do we do for him while at school?

Lizze and I have decided to keep him home today because we need to speak with the school. I don’t know what their policies are in regards to this type of allergy.  For example, Elliott only has two epipens.  Do we send him to school with one, obviously kept in the office?


I would think that the school should keep at least one at all times.  However, I want to have more that one at home, just in case. 

So we just ask the doctor for another prescription?

I’m also pretty sure that the school is going to need some type of documentation from the immunologist as well.  We don’t have that yet because of the holiday.

What about lunch and snacks?

Does the school have to provide him with a allergy free lunch or should we pack lunch for him?

When Emmett had food allergies, the weren’t this serious.  He might get an upset tummy. In Elliott‘s case, he could literally stop breathing.

I guess I’m not willing to take any chances.

I figured that I would  either call or meet with the school in the morning, while Lizze deals with the doctors office. She can procure any documentation we may need and hopefully, Elliott will be able to return to school on Tuesday.

Am I overreacting?  I suppose some would say yes.

The thing is, I was a medic for a long time and have treated anaphylaxis countless times in the field.  You should know that it’s a pretty friggin scary situation and it’s very dangerous.

I will not take any chances with Elliott‘s life. I know that he’s done fine so far this year, but we didn’t know about this.  Now that we know, how could we responsibly send him into am environment that could be dangerous for him, without taking every possible precaution?

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Apr 06 2012

#Autism: The escape artist


In the entirety of time that I have been a special needs parent,  I have never really had to worry about my kids sneaking out or wandering off.  We have been very fortunate in that area because many families have that to contend with as well. 

Gavin was the only one to ever get out of the house and wander off.  That happened one time but he wasn’t seeking out for the sake of sneaking out. 

I had asked him to collect up the recyclables and put them in the recycle bin inside out mud room.  I was referring to an empty milk jug and a few empty paper towel rolls. Gavin was very focused on collecting the recyclables and he decided to go out the back door and search for more.  He had only been outside for a few minutes when we realized he was gone. 

I found him searching through people’s trash,  looking for things he could recycle.  That one event scared me to death. 

The next day,  we had an alarm system put in.  Now all the doors and are monitored.  If any door is opened,  the is a loud announcement saying,  front doorback door or side door.  This let’s us know what’s happening.

The system has worked great.  However,  Emmett is now actively trying and succeeding at getting the front door unlocked and getting out of the house.

He has figured out how to unlock all three locks on the front door and escape. Fortunate,  he doesn’t get off the porch before we’re after him.  By the time we hear front door,  it’s to late. While he never gets anywhere, this is still a serious concern because he’s very determined.

The back and side doors all have double sided deadbolts.  In order to open the doors from either the inside or outside,  you need a key.

We have left the front door on a standard deadbolt for fire safety reasons.  If we had a fire in the middle of the night or really anytime and needed to get out in a hurry,  the last thing we need to worry about is fumbling for a key in order to open the door and escape.

However, it has become apparent that there is a more,  immediate risk in not having a double sided deadbolt on the front door. We could always just add more locks to the front door but he would eventually circumvent them as well. Our best bet is to require a key to get out the door. We’ll just have to figure out a way to ensure that a key is always within reach,  in the event that we would need to rapidly egress.

How have any of you managed to secure your home so that no one can sneek out and wander off?  I think this is an important topic to discuss but it’s a real risk and worry for many parents out there.

Perhaps we could all share some tips and trips….

**Thanks for reading**

       -Lost and Tired

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