Recovering from the tantrum

In Virginia, Medicaid covers most children in residential.  If a parent is on disability, children qualify for medicaid, also with low incomes.  You should check with social services!

@reality_autism we have had alot of meltdowns and I know it can be so hard to take when they are coming in droves. I feel ya. #autism

Rob, was the board of disabilities able to help you at all? (family resource money towards respite etc.?) (or the new self waiver that is out now)? Or some respite just until he is placed in a residential placement, so that you, the dogs, and the other boys can have a little break? Also are you trained in CPI or restraint? I cannot even imagine what you are going through. But one thing I do know is that you and Lizzie are great, wonderful parents! 🙂 🙂 Tell the boys I said hello. Tell Emmet I hope he feels better soon. 

You're doing good with the meltdown issues, after 21 yrs. of this I have learned the hard way.  I get it now, following my husbands direction on this.  Ignore, ignore ignore.  So hard to watch your son constantly hit himself in the head time after time was my instinct to hold his hand down and tell him NO.  The best thing is limited talking or try to reason with, into the room and stay there till you're done.  If needed remove all objects other than a bed and you can use certain items as a reinforcement and or reward when behavior is stopped at a reasonable amount of time. Took me many years to adjust to this, I had to realize I had no controll over this behavior and had to show him only hitting himself is hurting only him.  I wish you the best of luck!

I am sorry things are so rough. It really does suck. We have been there a time or two. As for the "Tantrum", to me it sounds more like a "Rage". Tantrums are more controllable by the child and by the parent, Rage's not so much and are beyond controllable for child and parent. I am hoping things quiet down for you all. Have a relaxing evening.

I hope you do get to relax