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Category Archive: Murphy’s Law

Mar 01 2013

What is your purpose?


What is you purpose? Sounds like a weird question, doesn’t it? However,  when you break it down, it’s actually a pretty good question. I’ve always felt like everyone in this world has a calling, something they were put here to do.

I’m asking what you were put here to do?

I’ve thought about this myself, many times over the years, especially when life took yet another unexpected turn.

When I was younger, I thought I had everything all figured out.  My late grandmother always said that I was meant for something truly profound.  My teachers used to say that they expected to read about me in the news papers or hear about me on the news.

I always felt sorta pressured by that notion because it felt like unless I was doing something that captured the attention of many, I assume somehow failing or not living up to my destiny.

I’ve been in the newspaper, front page actually and I’ve been on the radio a few times.  However, non of those things ever really felt like they really mattered or made any sort of difference in the world.  I’ve always wanted to make a difference.  I’ve always wanted to help people.

Growing up, my dream was to have a family.  I wanted to be a husband and a father in the worst way. 

Most kids at that age wanted to be a firemen (which I was) or a policeman (like I almost was).

Marriage and fatherhood seemed pretty mundane compared to what most kids wanted to be when they grew up. 

Having said that, as I got older and wiser, I realized that truly profound doesn’t necessarily mean big or super important, by society’s standards. 

When my grandmother would tell me that I was going to do something truly profound, I had assumed at my young age, she meant something like a superhero.  That’s kinda funny to think that now but I was just a kids back then. 

As it turns out I wasn’t to far off the mark.  I just didn’t have superhero in the right context. 

I wasn’t ever going to leap tall buildings in a single bound.  However, I can take a flight of steps at the speed of light, when  one of my kids are injured or upset.  I was never going to melt steel with my heat vision but I can melt away my children’s fears will a look of understanding and reassurance.

I’ll never battle a super villain but I’ve bested many monsters that took up residence under a bed or inside a closet.

While I don’t have superhero strength, I somehow manage to find the strength and courage to keep getting back up after I fall and helping my kids to move forward.

I’ve not been able to see or predict the future but I have to foresight and faith to know that my kids are going to do amazing things in their lives.

When  I was younger, I hadn’t realized that I didn’t have to be a superhero in order to make a difference in someone’s life.

Now that I’m a bit older, wiser and sporting less hair than before, I realize that I am doing something truly profound.  I’m a father to three autistic boys.  I somehow manage to survive in a situation that many others simply couldn’t and actually be happy,  albeit stressed out and overwhelmed. 

I think that it’s important that we, as special needs parents remember that, while this may not have been our first choice but in reality, we never chose this path. 
Instead, I truly believe that we are chosen for this path by someone or something that sees more value in us than we often give ourselves credit for. 

I can’t think of a more important job than being a special needs parents. 

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Jan 28 2013

I give up…. Murphy’s Law wins again


Today’s been an unusually difficult day, even for a Monday.  Monday’s are notoriously bad for me but today set a new standard.  

It all began with my back going out again. Then,  the heating pad I was using to help my back, caught fire while I was using it.

As if that wasn’t bad enough, my goddamn phone stopped working tonight.  My Galaxy Note 2′s screen stopped responding.  Later on it shut off and wouldn’t turn back on. 

Thankfully, Tmobile has ordered me a free replacement but it’s on backorder.  Son of a bitch, I just can’t win today.  Supposedly it will be here by the end of the week, so at least there’s that.

I will have to find a old Tmobile phone exchange to switch into utility then.  Right now I can use the boys tablet.  :-)

Tomorrow is another day.  I just need to make it until then.

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Jan 27 2013

Dear God…….


Dear God,

I know that I don’t talk to you as much as I should and when I do,  I’m asking for something. That’s totally on me.

I’m sure you already know that I’ve got a favor to ask you. 

There are rumors that we have some winter weather blowing in tonight and that it could impact school in the morning. 


I was wondering if you could pull a few strings and make sure we do not have a snow day in the morning.  Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids.  I really do.  However,  if school is canceled in the morning, think of all the people that will be affected. 

I’m not asking you this for myself. I have purely unselfish motives.  ;-)

When school is canceled, there are many people who will be unable to do what they love most. 

Um……..for example.

Who will all the bus drivers get to drive around if there are no kids needing rides? What about the teachers? They will be crushed if they have to stay home.

Don’t forget the lunch ladies either…..

Clearly you can see how having a snow day in the morning would be a bad thing for so many people.

If you ask me and I know you haven’t, I would think that there’s only one answer.  One solution.  We simply can’t have a snow day.  Far to many lives would be affected by that. 

I’m gonna go ahead and set my alarm for 7 am because I’m pretty sure you and I are on the same page.  Am I right?

I suppose time will tell. 


Rob Gorski

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Dec 03 2012

The Leap of Faith: Plans may change again


On Wednesday of this week, Lizze is scheduled to have a sleep study at the Cleveland Clinic. This is a prerequisite to entering the Chronic pain rehabilitation program.

They want to rule out sleep apnea as a contributing factor to her chronic fatigue.

However, Lizze has been and currently still is, sick. Apparently, if she isn’t feeling 100%, they sleep study will be scrubbed and rescheduled.


On top of that, services for her Grandfather, who past away Sunday night, will be on Wednesday as well.

Lizze is going to be an emotional wreck that day and I can’t see her being in a position to take part in a sleep study. My guess is that we will have to reschedule.

Unfortunately, that will put her entering the Chronic pain rehabilitation program in limbo.

We don’t know how soon we can reschedule the sleep study and the follow up appointment with her sleep neurologist.

I know this sucks but right now, we have no control over these things and so we are going to do our best to take them in stride.

This is going to be a tough enough week as it is. Perhaps it’s all for the best.

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Nov 17 2012

Thank God for Crazy Glue


Elliott and Emmett arrived home.  Emmett immediately noticed something was wrong with Bella. We explained that she had broken her toe nail. Both the E’s are very concerned and Emmett has been giving Bella extra hugs because they will make her feel better

Lizze and I reexamined the nail and cleaned it up a little better with some peroxide wipes.

The nail is actually cracked all the way around but stops at the bottom on both sides.  Basically, the underside of the nail is intact. 

That got me thinking. 

I figure that since the wound is clean and it’s just the actual nail, why not just glue it back with Crazy Glue?

I’ve sealed cuts with crazy glue and they do it in the hospital as well.

Anyway, I simply secured the nail by filling in the crack with crazy glue. Not only is the nail good as new, mostly, it’s also sealed from germs as well.

It’s not as bad as we first thought. The nail didn’t actually move, it was just cracked.  I also figured that it will eventually grow out.  If we have to, we will figure out how to get her to the Vet.

I really feel that this will be okay.  Bella acts as if nothing is wrong and isn’t in any sort of pain. 

Hopefully, this will be alright.  I’ll call the Vet on Monday and let them know. 

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Nov 17 2012

Murphy’s Law is a bitch


I wrote a post the other day that talked about how, at least in my family, anything that can go wrong, will go wrong. I’d like to back that claim up with the events of the past 2 days.

Last night, I learned that my blog was at risk of being shut down do to the high volume of traffic. I’m currently working on resolving this issue. Thank you all for your donations to help me move to a new,  more powerful server.

This morning, I was cleaning the first floor and letting Lizze sleep.  Shortly after Lizze can down, about 11:30am, we noticed a trail of blood on the floor. 

Lizze and I, having watched many a crime show, are armchair forensic experts. 

We tracked the source of the blood to Bella. 

For those of you new to this blog, Bella is Emmett’s pseudo service dog.  She’s a pure bred, female Boxer puppy and the most accident prone living thing I have ever seen.

A few months ago, she had another accident and ripped one of her front nails, almost completely off. There was blood everywhere.

Whatever she did then, she did again this morning and to the same foot.  It’s a different nail and it’s broken in what at least appears to be a more serious way.

Last time, the Vet was able to just snip the nail back.  This time, she broke it in such a way that it’s broken at the top and the cracked runs backwards, right into her toe, hence all the blood. 

We can’t get her into the Vet until Monday.

As any Stark County resident that has used the Emergency Vet can attest to, they are insanely expensive. So wait we will. 

I’m thinking that she will be okay because we’ve stopped the bleeding by packing the wound with flour, as instructed. Bella will be living, tethered to the couch until Monday.

Thankfully, the boys and especially Emmett, are still with my parents.  He would have lost it if he witnessed Bella in pain. 

We also noticed what appears to be a rash and a bunch of scratches, all over her underside. Perhaps she’s allergic to something or she messed herself up, tussling with Maggie outside this morning?

I told you,  everything that can go wrong, will go wrong. Murphy’s Law is a bitch.





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