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Lost and Tired

Author’s details

Name: Rob Gorski
Date registered: June 28, 2010
URL: http://lostandtired.com

Biography

I’m Rob Gorski and I started this blog in January 2010 as a means of sharing my family’s real life journey raising 3 boys on the #Autism Spectrum. It’s important for people to understand what Autism can really be like and the impact it has on the family. We aren’t a TV show and there are no actors. This is our struggle, our journey…and it’s all true. I am “Lost and Tired” and this is “My Reality #Autism”.

Latest posts

  1. A Lost and Tired Milestone: 1% Bounce Rate (Yay….I Think) — May 18, 2013
  2. The Daddy Do List — May 18, 2013
  3. Holy Meltdown Batman, that was really loud — May 18, 2013
  4. The “Did you knows” of #Autism: Meltdowns vs Tantrums — May 18, 2013
  5. It’s taking its toll on me — May 18, 2013

Most commented posts

  1. My broken heart — 123 comments
  2. 10 Things my Autistic kids wished you knew — 117 comments
  3. What is your “go to” food for you child with #Autism? — 89 comments
  4. Climb off your high horse already — 74 comments
  5. Thank you for judging me….. — 70 comments

Author’s posts listings

May 17 2013

Welcome to chaos, grab a seat and sit a spell

The only way to describe what today was like is with the word chaos. The morning began with Gavin in so much pain we were getting ready to take him to the ER.

He was actually screaming in pain. 

He had Elliott totally freaked out and we were in such a hurry that we didn’t send anyone to school.  Gavin was going to be in the hospital and Elliott and Emmett were going to my parents. 

I was freaked out myself and really worried. 

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We ended up not having to go but by the time everything was said and done, it was already not a good day.  We were also waiting to hear from his cardiologist to find out if he wanted him seen and evaluated for his rapid heart rate. 

After that, the rest of the day was pretty much shot. 

Even before any of this happened, Elliott was upset.  We had some of those little animal things that you stick in water and they grow. Well, last night we stuck them in the tub so they could grow overnight. 

Daddy screwed up and didn’t realize that these things were done growing in four hours. I’m used to the ones that take a few days. 

Anyway, when Elliott went into the bathroom this morning to check on them, it wasn’t pretty.  They had actually exploded in the water.  All that was left was large blotches or slimy, colored goo. He wasn’t happy….at all. 

Gavin’s been a bit difficult today.

He’s really been into tattling on his brothers for darn near everything.  When he wasn’t telling on someone, he was talking incessantly about Sonic the Hedgehog.

Behaviorally he been doing okay though.  We had a tiny meltdown last night because he accidentally broke something and was upset with himself.

As the day wound to an end, Elliott was back riding the emotional roller coaster again. 

Thankfully, everyone is sleeping.

I hope to be joining the ranks of those sawing some Z’s pretty soon.  :-)


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May 17 2013

When your kid can’t just be a kid

Kids are meant to be kids.  They’re meant to be care free and full of life. When you are a special needs parent to a child with fragile health, sometimes you have to do things that you don’t like, in order to ensure their health and well being.

That’s the case for the Lost and Tired Family, with our oldest Gavin. 

With everything that Gavin has going on and because they are so incredibly rare, there isn’t much known about the disorder’s. We don’t have a clear cut set of instructions or limitations that we should impose, in order to ensure his health and safety.

I want so badly to let Gavin just be a kid. 

I would love to be able to say to him, go be a kid. Go have fun.
Unfortunately, I can’t do that for him, at least not for right now.  Unfortunately, Gavin’s health problems dictate what he can and can’t do, instead of me as his parent.

The very sad reality is that sometimes,  a kid can’t just be a kid.


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May 17 2013

Operation Hope: Enter the Holter Monitor

Gavin’s cardiologist from Akron Children’s Hospital, personally called this morning to discuss our concerns about Gavin current heart rate issues.

I explained what was going on and what I was worried about. 

Part of my concern is the fact that his resting heart rate has been so high for so long. 

For right now, he isn’t so much concerned about the numbers because Gavin is so young. However, we do need to closely follow him and make sure that nothing else develops as a result. 

This might sound like this isn’t a big deal. 

The reason for that is because this isn’t actually a problem with Gavin’s heart itself.  The problem is in Gavin’s brain and the way in which it’s controlling the heart.

The concern arises when we look at the wear and tear this may be having on his system. 

You may also remember that Gavin’s biological father’s side of the family has a history of aortic tears at a really young age.  Until all this stuff began happening with Gavin’s health, about two years ago, he was supposed to be checked every year.

We need to go back anyway but if nothing else, at least we can get a better idea of when and when not to worry.

With that said, on Monday morning Gavin will be at the  Akron Children’s Hospital’s heart center being fitted for a Holster Monitor.

This will record his heart rate for a 24 hour period of time and give them a better idea of what is happening. 

I would imagine that they would want to have him do normal things, in order to get an accurate picture of what is actually happening. 

After 24 hours, we return the device and then see the doctor a few days later on Friday.

Hopefully, they have the results ready and we can figure out whether or not we need to be worried. 

Does that make sense?

It’s important to remember that this is looking not at the cause necessarily but instead the overall impact his elevated heart rate may be having on his body.

We already know the reasons behind the problem and we also know that there is nothing we can do to fix it. 

What we are trying to establish is guidelines for his heart.  We want to know when we need to worry about his heart rate and when not to be worried about.

Right now we have guidelines in place for the autonomic crises in general but should there be guidelines for both? Hopefully, we will have those answers after next Friday.  Maybe we don’t need to worry so much about how this is affecting his heart physically. 

The outcome is the same at this point regardless.

The crashing is caused by his brain and his heart is just the messenger, if that makes sense. 


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May 17 2013

Almost had Gavin in the ER this morning

Gavin woke up this morning in extreme abdominal pain. So much so that we called both boys off and we walking out the door to head to the ER at Akron Children’s Hospital.

Elliott and Emmett were going to my Mom’s while we were on the way up.

Before welcomed leave however, Gavin began to feel better.

The reason I was freaking out is because Gavin was totally freaking out.  He was doubled over and screaming. While Gavin has a pension for the performing arts, mainly drama, he did seek to be faking anything.

This also had Elliott stressing out as well, in a pretty big way and in the moment, I wasn’t going to even try to make him go to school.  Plus, we were going to be leaving before school started.

Right now, Lizze is in bed sleeping, I’m working and trying to stay awake.

Gavin’s taking it easy and the boys have settled down a little bit.

I’m so exhausted right now and I cam barely keep my eyes open.  I’ve got a call into Gavin’s cardiologist about the cardiovascular side of things.

In the meantime, he hooked up to my heart rate monitor and I cam monitor his heart rate, in real time from my phone.  I get alerts whenever it goes about 145/bpm…


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May 17 2013

What precious little sanity I have left

Emmett has been freaking out since about 6am this morning.  He’s definitely gotten up on the wrong side of the bed.

I’m going on no sleep because I’m personally freaking about about what to do for Gavin.

I really, really, really, really need today to go as smoothly as possible.  I can’t handle the fighting and screaming right now.  Hopefully, we will  be able to rise above some of these things today, if for no other reason than to preserve what precious little sanity I have left.


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May 17 2013

I’m getting Gavin into the cardiologist ASAP

One of the things many special needs parents are lacking is a friggin instruction manual for their often times, quite complicated children.

I realize that no child comes with a set of instructions but most parents are able to muddle through.

When it comes to special needs children, it’s almost a cruel joke that they don’t come with at least guidelines. I mean honestly, who do we need to talk to about this?

Special needs parenting is hard enough as is.  Parents like ourselves, could benefit from a basic set of guidelines or in structures. At least I know I would.

When it comes to Gavin, I find myself in desperate need of a goddamn instruction manual.

With everything he has going, he’s so complex and so unique that no one can really tell us what to do.  For example, the issues he’s having with his heart rate and blood pressure are serious and yet because what he has is so incredibly rare, no one can tell us what do.

We’re sorta feeling our way through the dark. 

We’ve decided that we are going to visit his cardiologist and find out from a cardiovascular standpoint, do we need to worry about his heart rate? If so, at what point is this something that we really need to worry about?

I need some sorta of guidance because I am completely lost right now and have no idea what we do or where we go….


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May 17 2013

The Lighter Side of #Autism: My sweet little man

You know something? Despite all the screaming he’s capable of, Emmett is the absolute sweetest 4 year old I know.  Admittedly I’m probably a smidgen biased but what parent isn’t?

Anyway, today Emmett fell asleep on the couch patiently waiting for Elliott to get home from school so they could play together. 

He looks so peaceful.  Incredibly uncomfortable but peaceful nonetheless.  :-)

Emmett John, Daddy loves you so very much.  :-)


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Check out my #Autism Awareness Store to find really cool and unique #Autism Awareness Clothing and Accessories, designed by me. ;-)

For more ways to help the Lost and Tired family, please visit Help the Lost and Tired Family.



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